Just Engaged! Is His Mom a Monster-In-Law



How would you choose to handle this situation?
You’re visiting with your future in laws.  Having a great time.  You go into the kitchen to help your “mom-to-be” and she turns to you, puts her hand on your arm, looks you straight in the eye and says:
“I am glad we have this minute alone as I have something weighing on my mind. You are a really sweet girl and I am very happy for you both. I am not sure you realize that my son is a free spirit.  He may not always put you first and he is going to do what he wants without cause and concern for your feelings.  I am worried because I see you sitting at home alone at night, while he is out with his friends.  I fear for you.  It can get very lonely and I am worried that you will end up being a noose around my son’s neck.”
Would you:
  1. Run out of the house and never look back
   2. Smack her in the face and cause a scene
   3. Tell your fiancé and hope that he stands up for you
   4. Would you have the courage to lean in and recognize that she was having a hard time giving up her son
Dear Reader,  I would truly like to hear what you would do if faced with this situation. Do you have a wonderful future mother-in-law or is she a “Monster-in-law”?  How do you deal with her?  How does your fiancé deal with her is an even better question?  Does she make you want to rethink your engagement?  Write in. Leave your comments.  I am curious to know how you are coping.
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Stressed Out! Easy Fixes to Get You Through the Final Stages

 You are fighting with your husband because you are spending way too much on your child’s Mitzvah.  He just doesn’t understand why you need to have 50 vendors and a celebrity entertainer.  All the money you had hidden in your sock draw has now been used to pay for some of the extras that you just had to have.  It is getting closer to the date and all the final payments are due instead of lying awake at night waiting for the shoe to drop try:
Going to the gym.  It will release the positive endorphins which will provide a sense of calm and put a smile back on your face. And an even bigger plus, you get to show up at your child’s Bar/Bat Mitzvah with a new and improved body.  Everyone will be talking.
Try a meditation class.  I know it is hard to sit with your mind silent, especially since you have carpools to drive, favors to buy, guest seating to finish; but without taking time for yourself all your planning and hard work will not be enjoyed by you or your guests.  Planning your child’s Mitzvah is more than a party it is a journey for you and your family.
Hire a planner to finish the job.  A good planner will take over and help you sort through all chaos.  Speak with all the vendors, finalize and complete all the details and most of all give you time to prepare, relax and support your child.
Dear Reader,  Are you feeling stressed?  Where are you stuck? Let me know we would love to help.
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Wedding Planners Facts or Myths You Decide

When I got married, on Long Island, the “wedding planner” was the person at the catering hall, or as my husband called it, “the wedding factory” that actually booked and sold us on the dream of the perfect wedding.  Once we were sold he then took our deposit and gave us a list of the vendors they wanted us to use.  When the final balance was due we met with him for maybe the 3rd time to finalize our menu and give him the name of our florist, photographer and band.
So simple and easy.  Not really.  He did not hold my hand during the process and help me make important decisions or decipher the contracts and promises of my vendors. It was an impersonal business transaction and half way thru the process he quit and I got a substitute, who was not privee to the conversations and promises I had received.  Talk about un-needed stress.
Today, you too can use the “wedding planner” at the banquet facility.  But you should be aware that their experience in planning events is limited to the space that they are currently working in.  They are not out in the world of events planning parties and weddings at an assortment of venues.  Furthermore, they will probably have a minimum of between 2-4 weddings or special events booked for each and every weekend of the year.  In addition, they work for the venue.  Their loyalty lies with the venue.  Yes they want you to have a wonderful and memorable celebration with them but at what cost?  Will this planner set up meetings for you with other venues?  Translate contracts and proposals from the different venues.? Take your call when you are having a stressful day?  Look at your invitations to make sure the wording is correct and there are no spelling errors?  Answer 40 emails a day with care and concern? Will they go with you to the dress fittings or makeup consultations? Will they be available to meet with the photographer and videographer? Will they spend countless hours on the phone and in person with your florist, designer and lighting specialist?  Will they help you patch up the fights you are having with your fiancée?  Will they lend a compassionate ear when you are upset with your mother?  Will they get the cake lady to call you back or answer your emails? 
Most importantly will they allow you to create the wedding you always dreamed about.  Offering a myriad of possibilities and insights or will they just give you what they give to each and every bride that walks into their space? An independent planner will always have your best interest at heart. First and foremost they will always work in your best interest.  They will serve as your guide, your coach, your therapist and friend during this entire process.  They will execute your dream day with perfection the way you envision it and want it to occur.  They will trouble shoot and spin a magical web for you to spend your day in joy and happiness.
Your independent wedding planner will do more than make 5 phone calls and give a list of preferred vendors.  He/she will pool her resources and connect you with the right people for your personality, style and budget.  He/she will provide you with innovation and the latest trends.  She will encourage you to think beyond the pictures you see in the magazines to help your style and personality come through- not the venues.  Planners do not have an agenda- they have a passion.  There is no sales quota that they need to meet.  At the end of the day they get their comfort and satisfaction in your joy.
Dear Reader, What is the biggest fear you have about your wedding? 
If you found this article helpful or interesting please leave a comment.  Let me know your thoughts, If you have any questions or need any information or would like to see me write about a topic you need help on let me know.  If you don’t want to leave a comment below you can always email me: Julia@eventuresinc.netor simply visit our website at www.eventuresinc.net. Subscribe to our list for your free eBook “Make it Your Own! The Ultimate Guide to Personalize Your Day”
Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning!

Mitzvah Themes: What Really Works



We have all been to a Bar/Bat Mitzvah where too much emphasis is spent show- casing a talented child. This is a great time for your child to stand up, proud and be welcomed and recognized by their community.  It is important his/her personality to come through because the more you can infuse this into the celebration the more connected your guests will feel. But, when is too much too much? How do you showcase your child without coming off like a showoff?
Find one of his/her interests or passions or just something that is interesting about your child and do something creative with it. 
I had a child who was interested in rock and roll music and his mom was obsessed with albums. So we showcased her son by superimposing his image onto his favorite album covers.  We then created laminated placemats from the covers and used them on the tables in place of table names or numbers.  At the end of the evening guests were grabbing them up as souvenirs.
For another child, a very talented musician we created a Renaissance fair as the cocktail hour and along with other artists, interactive booths, food and strolling talent the Bat Mitzvah performed a piece. Her performance was scheduled and the time and location was listed the program that we handed out at the guest arrival.
Another Bar Mitzvah boy’s passion was skateboarding and anything “street”. So we used his grand entrance as a way for him to express his talent; we laid down ramps, roped off a specific area and came in on a skateboard, did a 1 minute routine and the party started.
Dear Reader, Is there something you want to showcase in your child but you don’t know how?  Write in what you need help with. I would love to hear about it and help.
If you found this article helpful or interesting please leave a comment.  Let me know your thoughts, If you have any questions or need any information or would like to see me write about a topic you need help on let me know.  If you don’t want to leave a comment below you can always email me: Julia@eventuresinc.netor simply visit our website at www.eventuresinc.net. Subscribe to our list for your free ebook “Make it Your Own! The Ultimate Guide to Personalize Your Day”
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Busted! 3 Money Saving Wedding Tips

Have you already started to plan your wedding? Are you suffering from sticker shock because your perfect venue will leave you no money for anything else? 
Maybe it is time to go outside of the box and be open to having your wedding at a different time of year.  Choose a different month or time of year to get married. Call your favorite venue and ask them what is their slowest month, or maybe what it normally their slowest weekend.  Moving your dream day into an off peak season could end up saving you thousands of dollars.
Have to get married during a specific time of year; then maybe a daytime wedding is the perfect compromise.  Don’t want your wedding to end at 5:00pm then perhaps you can have a simple after party back at your hotel or in a local restaurant.
A daytime wedding is just not an option; maybe you pick a holiday weekend so that your guests can relax and say your vows on a Sunday evening. Or look into a week night to say “I do”. Search the calendar for a Thursday night that precedes a long holiday weekend.  
Dear Reader, What do you think about the new trend in wedding dress colors? I would love to know if you are the traditional all white or are you willing to step out of the box in one of the new floral or blush tone dresses?
If you found this article helpful or interesting please leave a comment.  Let me know your thoughts, If you have any questions or need any information or would like to see me write about a topic you need help on let me know.  If you don’t want to leave a comment below you can always email me: Julia@eventuresinc.netor simply visit our website at www.eventuresinc.net. Subscribe to our list for your free ebook “Make it Your Own! The Ultimate Guide to Personalize Your Day”
Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning!

3 Mitzvah Projects that will Change Your Life

Let’s face it Tzedekah is a huge part of the Jewish experience and it is something we should be modeling to our children.  So why is it that when the Bar Mitzvah is required to have a Mitzvah project as part of his/her experience do we begin to feel a bit sick inside and break out in a cold sweat?  As a mother of two living in a city like LA where everything requires a car, being required to add one more thing to the already large “to do” list can send anyone into overload.  However, giving back is the backbone of our religion and incorporating it into your child’s experience can be easy and very rewarding.
Let me help you get started.  Contact any one of these 3 organizations for help and ideas to make this part of the process meaningful:
Add meaning to your service by having your child connect with a child from the Holocaust through: Remember Us The Holocaust B’Nai Mitzvah Project.  Their website is www.remember-us.org
Help a child with cancer at Chai Lifeline www.chailifeline.org
Contact the Make it Count Project and have them help you incorporate a fun interactive community service project into your cocktail hour at www.makeitcountproject.com
Dear Readers, Did you find this information helpful?  Let me know. I would love to hear from you.  Please feel free to contact me directly or chime in by leaving your comments below.
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Kosher Wedding- 3 Cost Effective Options

You found your dream wedding venue. You can picture yourself saying your vows in this perfect setting. It has everything you always dreamed about, till you talk to your parents and they request that you have a kosher wedding reception.  Oh no! Now what?
A lot of venues either have an alliance with a Kosher Caterer or they will allow you to bring in an outside kosher caterer of your choice and you then pay a rental fee for the use of the venue.  If you go this route you may find yourself doubling your costs.
However, if your heart is set on this perfect, one of a kind dream venue but your pocket book is shy the extra money it may cost for kosher food consider exploring these options:
Offer a Kosher style wedding and if serving meat make sure you serve enough vegetarian and/or fish options.
Create a vegetarian/pescetarian menu.  Make sure you do not include non-kosher fish items such as shrimp, lobster and swordfish.  Or serve a breakfast for dinner.  In addition to it being a novel idea everyone loves breakfast foods.
Order Kosher meals to be delivered for your guests with dietary restrictions. 
Dear Readers, What wedding decisions are you struggling with right now?  Let me know.  I would love to help!
If you found this article helpful or interesting please leave a comment.  Let me know your thoughts, If you have any questions or need any information or would like to see me write about a topic you need help on let me know.  If you don’t want to leave a comment below you can always email me: Julia@eventuresinc.netor simply visit our website at www.eventuresinc.net. Subscribe to our list for your free ebook “Make it Your Own! The Ultimate Guide to Personalize Your Day”
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Animal House Bar Mitzvah

For this Bar Mitzvah my client came to me wanting to recreate the movie animal house as it was her son’s favorite movie.  Hillcrest Country Club in Beverly Hills was the perfect place to execute this theme.  We decided to recreate a “college” campus and for cocktails created a “student center” for the party the adults sat in the “Dean’s” special restaurant and the kids area was turned into a “Frat House”.

Tiny Pine Press  created a custom logo that was derived from all of the child’s interests and hobbies. The logo was carried throughout the night to brand the event on plastic serving trays, mugs, seat cushions and all signage. Additionally we created a map of the “campus” where our frat house was to live using the names of all the members of the Bar Mitzvah Boys family.We had seat cushions made to match the custom insignia of the frat.  The table names were different fraternities from around the country and we used each fraternities flag to identify the tables. The Bar Mitzvah boys grandfather built a “death mobile” which we used for the grand entrance.The windows of the country club were covered in silhouettes to replicate the sorority sister scene of the girls having a pillow fight.  Togas were handed out during the music dance set of the song “shout”.  We also set the dessert buffet table as a giant edible parade.


Do you have any questions or concerns about your child’s Bar/Bat Mitzvah that you would like me to answer?  Let me know.  I would be happy to help.

If you found this article helpful or interesting please leave a comment.  Let me know your thoughts, If you have any questions or need any information or would like to see me write about a topic you need help on let me know.  If you don’t want to leave a comment below you can always email me: Julia@eventuresinc.net or simply visit our website at www.eventuresinc.net. Subscribe to our list for your free ebook “Make it Your Own! The Ultimate Guide to Personalize Your Day”

Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning!

Design Ideas for Every Budget

If you are the do it yourself kind of bride and you just spent all your money on the band, the photographer and your dress and you don’t know what to do at your reception, try one or all of these easy and affordable ideas:
Candles are my favorite decorating tool.  Nothing makes a room look more inviting and warm then candlelight. Buy tons of different size and height candles and fill your tables with them.   For an extra pop place a mirror on the table and then place the candles on top of the mirror. The warm glow and sparkle from the candles will put everyone in a beautiful light for photography.
Love flowers and got to have them – fill different size vases with water and float 1 flower in each vase.  Alternate your vases by using both floating candles and flowers.  Choose different shapes and heights for more drama.
Chairs are the first thing your eye sees when you step into your reception room. If the banquet chairs at your venue are ugly, worn out or just don’t fit your dream then either change them by renting chairs or cover them with chair covers.
What are you struggling with most regarding your wedding planning? Let me know.  I would love to help.
If you found this article helpful or interesting please leave a comment.  Let me know your thoughts, If you have any questions or need any information or would like to see me write about a topic you need help on let me know.  If you don’t want to leave a comment below you can always email me: Julia@eventuresinc.netor simply visit our website at www.eventuresinc.net. Subscribe to our list for your free ebook “Make it Your Own! The Ultimate Guide to Personalize Your Day”
Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning!