Mishap Monday: What To Do When The Music Goes Down At Your Party

During one of my event’s, the speakers the DJ had brought stopped working! I had to think quickly and on the spot. I used the three steps below and handled the situation without any of the guests and my clients … Continue reading

10 Ways to De-Stress When Planning Your Wedding

Are you planning your own wedding but don’t know where to start.  If you answered “yes” then you are not alone. A lot of Brides I speak with have a hard time weeding through the amount of information that is … Continue reading

What is the Biggest Obstacle You are Faced with? Right Now!

Dear Reader,

Every week for almost a year I have been writing about topics that I think you may find interesting.  Handing our information that I think would help you.  But, I would love to hear from you.  What do you want to learn about?  What is the one biggest obstacle you are facing today as you are planning your wedding, or trying to decide if you want to become engaged?

Let me know I would love to help you in the journey and write about what it is you want to read.

Thanks for this opportunity to be of service.

If you found this article helpful or interesting please leave a comment.  Let me know your thoughts, If you have any questions or need any information or would like to see me write about a topic you need help on let me know.  If you don’t want to leave a comment below you can always email me: Julia@eventuresinc.netor simply visit our website at www.eventuresinc.net. Subscribe to our list for your free ebook “Make it Your Own! The Ultimate Guide to Personalize Your Day”

Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning

Whose Wedding Is It?

Do you feel like you are going crazy listening to all your friends and family telling you what to do?  Is your head about to explode with all the information coming at you?
I know- it’s your wedding and you want it your way.  Sure you love to listen to what others have to say but just because your cousin had a parade of flying geese doesn’t mean it is the right thing for you.
When you feel overwhelmed and tired of listening instead of losing your cool and screaming try one of these things instead:
1.     Unplug for an hour or even a day- heck if you need it take a whole week off from all the wedding advice, information.  No phones, no internet and no computer.
2.     Take a walk or if you are into biking or nature maybe a hike will help or perhaps you should look into yoga.
3.     Get a massage, mani/pedi or a facial.
4.     When your friends and family chime in with all their knowledge and information before you react or answer take a deep breath. And pause.  Or maybe excuse yourself and head off to the bathroom for a quick break and a little alone time.
5.     If breathing and a pause didn’t work, smile and thank everyone for their information.  Acknowledge that you heard them.  Just because they speak it doesn’t mean you have to do it.
Dear Reader, Are you feeling overwhelmed and bombarded by well intentioned friends and family?  How are you choosing to deal with all their advice?  Write me andlet me know.   Or leave a comment.  I promise to answer.
If you found this article helpful or interesting please leave a comment.  Let me know your thoughts, If you have any questions or need any information or would like to see me write about a topic you need help on let me know.  If you don’t want to leave a comment below you can always email me: Julia@eventuresinc.netor simply visit our website at www.eventuresinc.net. Subscribe to our list for your free ebook “Make it Your Own! The Ultimate Guide to Personalize Your Day”
Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning!

Just Engaged! Is His Mom a Monster-In-Law



How would you choose to handle this situation?
You’re visiting with your future in laws.  Having a great time.  You go into the kitchen to help your “mom-to-be” and she turns to you, puts her hand on your arm, looks you straight in the eye and says:
“I am glad we have this minute alone as I have something weighing on my mind. You are a really sweet girl and I am very happy for you both. I am not sure you realize that my son is a free spirit.  He may not always put you first and he is going to do what he wants without cause and concern for your feelings.  I am worried because I see you sitting at home alone at night, while he is out with his friends.  I fear for you.  It can get very lonely and I am worried that you will end up being a noose around my son’s neck.”
Would you:
  1. Run out of the house and never look back
   2. Smack her in the face and cause a scene
   3. Tell your fiancé and hope that he stands up for you
   4. Would you have the courage to lean in and recognize that she was having a hard time giving up her son
Dear Reader,  I would truly like to hear what you would do if faced with this situation. Do you have a wonderful future mother-in-law or is she a “Monster-in-law”?  How do you deal with her?  How does your fiancé deal with her is an even better question?  Does she make you want to rethink your engagement?  Write in. Leave your comments.  I am curious to know how you are coping.
If you found this article helpful or interesting please leave a comment.  Let me know your thoughts, If you have any questions or need any information or would like to see me write about a topic you need help on let me know.  If you don’t want to leave a comment below you can always email me: Julia@eventuresinc.netor simply visit our website at www.eventuresinc.net. Subscribe to our list for your free ebook “Make it Your Own! The Ultimate Guide to Personalize Your Day”
Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning!

Wedding Planners Facts or Myths You Decide

When I got married, on Long Island, the “wedding planner” was the person at the catering hall, or as my husband called it, “the wedding factory” that actually booked and sold us on the dream of the perfect wedding.  Once we were sold he then took our deposit and gave us a list of the vendors they wanted us to use.  When the final balance was due we met with him for maybe the 3rd time to finalize our menu and give him the name of our florist, photographer and band.
So simple and easy.  Not really.  He did not hold my hand during the process and help me make important decisions or decipher the contracts and promises of my vendors. It was an impersonal business transaction and half way thru the process he quit and I got a substitute, who was not privee to the conversations and promises I had received.  Talk about un-needed stress.
Today, you too can use the “wedding planner” at the banquet facility.  But you should be aware that their experience in planning events is limited to the space that they are currently working in.  They are not out in the world of events planning parties and weddings at an assortment of venues.  Furthermore, they will probably have a minimum of between 2-4 weddings or special events booked for each and every weekend of the year.  In addition, they work for the venue.  Their loyalty lies with the venue.  Yes they want you to have a wonderful and memorable celebration with them but at what cost?  Will this planner set up meetings for you with other venues?  Translate contracts and proposals from the different venues.? Take your call when you are having a stressful day?  Look at your invitations to make sure the wording is correct and there are no spelling errors?  Answer 40 emails a day with care and concern? Will they go with you to the dress fittings or makeup consultations? Will they be available to meet with the photographer and videographer? Will they spend countless hours on the phone and in person with your florist, designer and lighting specialist?  Will they help you patch up the fights you are having with your fiancée?  Will they lend a compassionate ear when you are upset with your mother?  Will they get the cake lady to call you back or answer your emails? 
Most importantly will they allow you to create the wedding you always dreamed about.  Offering a myriad of possibilities and insights or will they just give you what they give to each and every bride that walks into their space? An independent planner will always have your best interest at heart. First and foremost they will always work in your best interest.  They will serve as your guide, your coach, your therapist and friend during this entire process.  They will execute your dream day with perfection the way you envision it and want it to occur.  They will trouble shoot and spin a magical web for you to spend your day in joy and happiness.
Your independent wedding planner will do more than make 5 phone calls and give a list of preferred vendors.  He/she will pool her resources and connect you with the right people for your personality, style and budget.  He/she will provide you with innovation and the latest trends.  She will encourage you to think beyond the pictures you see in the magazines to help your style and personality come through- not the venues.  Planners do not have an agenda- they have a passion.  There is no sales quota that they need to meet.  At the end of the day they get their comfort and satisfaction in your joy.
Dear Reader, What is the biggest fear you have about your wedding? 
If you found this article helpful or interesting please leave a comment.  Let me know your thoughts, If you have any questions or need any information or would like to see me write about a topic you need help on let me know.  If you don’t want to leave a comment below you can always email me: Julia@eventuresinc.netor simply visit our website at www.eventuresinc.net. Subscribe to our list for your free eBook “Make it Your Own! The Ultimate Guide to Personalize Your Day”
Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning!

Kosher Wedding- 3 Cost Effective Options

You found your dream wedding venue. You can picture yourself saying your vows in this perfect setting. It has everything you always dreamed about, till you talk to your parents and they request that you have a kosher wedding reception.  Oh no! Now what?
A lot of venues either have an alliance with a Kosher Caterer or they will allow you to bring in an outside kosher caterer of your choice and you then pay a rental fee for the use of the venue.  If you go this route you may find yourself doubling your costs.
However, if your heart is set on this perfect, one of a kind dream venue but your pocket book is shy the extra money it may cost for kosher food consider exploring these options:
Offer a Kosher style wedding and if serving meat make sure you serve enough vegetarian and/or fish options.
Create a vegetarian/pescetarian menu.  Make sure you do not include non-kosher fish items such as shrimp, lobster and swordfish.  Or serve a breakfast for dinner.  In addition to it being a novel idea everyone loves breakfast foods.
Order Kosher meals to be delivered for your guests with dietary restrictions. 
Dear Readers, What wedding decisions are you struggling with right now?  Let me know.  I would love to help!
If you found this article helpful or interesting please leave a comment.  Let me know your thoughts, If you have any questions or need any information or would like to see me write about a topic you need help on let me know.  If you don’t want to leave a comment below you can always email me: Julia@eventuresinc.netor simply visit our website at www.eventuresinc.net. Subscribe to our list for your free ebook “Make it Your Own! The Ultimate Guide to Personalize Your Day”
Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning

Newly Engaged! 3 Things To Do Now

You just got engaged and now what?  First things first you just have to pick up the phone and tell everyone the news. Once the screaming and joy dies down do not let the fear in.  If you do the feelings will overwhelm you and you will find that you cannot move forward with planning this big day.
The first thing you really need to know before you start planning your wedding is how much money do you intend to spend. It’s time to make an appointment with both of your parents and ask them how much are they willing to invest so you can have the wedding of your dreams.
Head out to your nearest Barnes and Noble or news stand and buy all the wedding magazines you can find. Take them home get a cup of coffee and start thumbing through them.  Pull out the pictures that speak to you.  Use these photos as inspiration. They will help you become clear on your wedding vision.
Now that you are beginning to get an idea of the style of your wedding you will be able to begin your search for the perfect wedding venue/location.  Some things to think about when choosing your perfect venue: do you want the ceremony at the same place as the reception?  Do you want to be inside, outside, in a tent, at a hotel or country club or in your parent’s backyard? Create a spreadsheet with all the important information that you gather from the venues that interest you.  This will help you be able to compare them to determine which is the best fit. 
If you found this article helpful or interesting please leave a comment.  Let me know your thoughts, If you have any questions or need any information or would like to see me write about a topic you need help on let me know.  If you don’t want to leave a comment below you can always email me: Julia@eventuresinc.netor simply visit our website at www.eventuresinc.net. Subscribe to our list for your free ebook “Make it Your Own! The Ultimate Guide to Personalize Your Day”
Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning!

Wedding Planning Jitters?

One thing I find exists in all my clients is that element of fear.You can’t wait to get engaged.When you meet that certain someone you dream about it for days, weeks and even months- maybe sometimes years.Then he finally proposes. You jump around the room, for 10 minutes screaming you hug you kiss and then…

Once the ring is on and all the calls are made you either go for it full throttle and plan your wedding in a whirlwind or you sit back and wait and then you wait some more. For me, when I got engaged all those years ago I was afraid to make those first phone calls- who do I call, where do I start? Back then Wedding planners were the people in the banquet halls and hotels. We didn’t have the internet.

Today, the world is so different; with the internet, twitter, facebook, etc… the influx of wedding stimuli to your inbox can be so overwhelming. Then you have to deal with all your fears about spending too much money, the fear of finally finding out what things costs, not having a vision or worse yet having an idea that you can’t fulfill because you don’t know how or can’t afford to.

I just find it so interesting that as women we all have that little girl inside us that screams look at me! Till you start to plan your wedding and then that little girl goes- Uh Oh! And wants to just shrink away and run away and hide.

So, to start, I am going to suggest for you to just jump. That’s right take the plunge and just start. Waiting is only going to increase the tension and anxiety. You want to get married right? You want to have a wedding? So what are you waiting for?

“Leap and the net will appear”.

If this was helpful or interesting to you please let me know. Leave a comment. I would love to hear from you and please know I am here to be of service.

Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning!

Why Hiring a Wedding Planner is a Good Idea

This post is based on a true event.

Last weekend my neighbor’s son got married. The wedding took place at his parent’s home. This is just a taste of what we got to experience as their neighbor.

Saturday afternoon I arrived home to my cul de sac at around 3pm to be greeted by massive chaos on my street. There were cars and trucks parked everywhere; making it difficult to drive down the street.

No big deal, right? People have parties, do construction create chaos and mess all the time. You just get used to it, take a deep breath and move on. Especially in a city like Los Angeles.

Around 6pm my husband and I leave to meet with friends, my son is off to Santa Barbara and my poor daughter, a junior in High school is home studying for finals. We get back home at around 10pm. The street is still crazy, music is still blaring. Wow, 7 hours later- must be a great party!

We go into our house and get ready for bed- around 10:30 the music dies down and as we are drifting off to sleep we are shocked awake by footsteps coming up our back deck stairs and in a flash there is a giant shadow of a man standing in our bedroom window. We both scream and jump out of bed, I have seriously never been so scared in my entire life and am shocked that I was able to pick up the phone to call the police.

We soon discover that the large male intruder, the one who scared us awake, worked for the DJ company that ran or played at the wedding next door. Apparently he got drunk and managed to get lost and ended up in my backyard- which is completely enclosed with a wrap around wooden fence… In addition, the next day- my husband lets me know that our backyard was covered in beer bottles.

You are probably wondering how this relates to my topic of why you should hire a Wedding Planner for your wedding?

Because, when you hire a planner you are going to have qualified, professional vendors with work policies regarding how their employees are allowed to behave at your party. I know, our work is fun- we create atmosphere and energy for your event. But, the key word is we are working! We are there to provide a service, not party like a guest.

Furthermore, I absolutely know that at the end of one of my parties or weddings my vendors will not be wandering the neighborhood casing out the homes and opening you (the client) up to a possible lawsuit. When the party ends they will be loading their stuff into their trucks and leaving- and they are leaving your home and your neighbors homes the way they found them- no one’s lawn will be strewn with beer cans or empty wine bottles. I think a little peace of mind and tranquility for all are wise choices when it comes to planning your next home wedding.

If you found this useful, helpful or interesting, please let me know. I would love your feedback. If there is something you want to learn about just let me know. I would be more than happy to oblige.

Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning!