I remember years ago flying to Boston for a relative’s Bat Mitzvah. I was very excited to be invited. I would like to tell you that the service was lovely, however, the service lacked personality and depth. Furthermore, it was quite evident that the Rabbi did not know anything about the families of either of the 2 children standing on the Bima that day.
I left that service appalled and clear on one thing: discovering ways to make the Bar/Bat Mitzvah service a personal experience for my family and my clients. So when I came home I completely immersed myself into discovering ways to make this day meaningful and memorable.
Try writing your own prayer book. I know this sounds daunting however, it is not as hard today to make that happen. There are a number of services throughout the country that can help you with this task. Infuse the book with information. You would be surprised at how many people do not know what it means to become a Bar Mitzvah. Explain the rituals and meanings behind the prayers.
You can also enhance your service by including readings for various members of your family or close friends. If you have lost a loved one like a Grandparent invite the grandchildren to the Bima for the reading of the Kaddish. Maybe provide a special poem or prayer for them to read during this time. The more involved you make your guests feel the more they want to celebrate with you.
If your child is talented musically have them showcase this during the service. Pick an appropriate piece of music for them to perform. Perhaps you can find something that ties in with their Torah portion and ask your Rabbi for help.
I have always thought that Judaism is a religion based on community and involvement. So take this day to embrace your guests and include them in this experience.
Dear Reader, Have you ever been to a service that moved you? Let me know. I would like to hear your stories. I am always looking for new ways to make a child’s Bar/Bat Mitzvah more meaningful.
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Thanks for this opportunity to be of service.
Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning
Eventures Premier Wedding and Event Specialists: Bar/Bat Mitzvah Find the Perfect Venue: Are you having trouble trying to decide where to have your child’s Bar/Bat Mitzvah? Why not try a theater. I love planning events in theat…
Are you having trouble trying to decide where to have your child’s Bar/Bat Mitzvah? Why not try a theater. I love planning events in theaters. They are unusual and offer so many creative opportunities to have a party that is not like everyone else’s. Also, if you pick the right theater, that fits with your theme you may not have to spend a lot of money on decor. Here are 3 fabulous theaters in Los Angeles to explore. Explore the possibilities:
The Orpheum Theater in Downtown Los Angeles is dramatic and a fabulous place to hold an event. They have many options and spaces. Try hosting your party on the stage, that is what we did for this Harry Potter themed Bar Mitzvah.
The Hollywood Palladium is another great venue to explore. It is very large- so if your party is small you will have to create a room within a room which might take you out of your budget, but it is well worth exploring. That is where I did this wonderful Wizard of Oz event with flying monkeys and a witch.
My all time favorite venue for a Bar Mitzvah is the El Rey theater. They are flexible and easy to work with. The space is beautiful and here too there are many possibilities on using the space.
Dear Reader, Where are you holding your child’s Bar/Bat Mitzvah?
It has become a fairly common practice to not invite kids to your child’s service; they can be disruptive and rude. This concerns me. What message are we sending our children by eliminating them from the most important part of the day?
I am not here to preach about what is right or wrong in this arena. It can be very disruptive to have a group of 75 kids talking and making noise during your child’s Bar Mitzvah, however, isn’t that what kids do? Don’t you think that they learn from bad behavior, and misconduct so that we can then hold them accountable with an action meant to teach? Isn’t childhood a place for learning? If we don’t allow them into Temple for this rite of passage than how do we encourage them to come in later? How do we teach our children to love and embrace their religion if they are not welcome? I am troubled my this new trend.
Dear Reader, How do you feel about kids being a part of the service? Are you inviting them to yours? Are you worried that your children will assimilate as they age?