5 Tips to Avoid Wedding Day Disaster

With the proper pre-planning you should be able to avoid some wedding day disasters that could easily turn your perfect wedding and you into an emotional mess.
1. A good time line will help keep your guests present, excited and engaged in your big day.
2. An accurate, alphabetical, list of attendees with their seat assignment will help to avoid major chaos when one of your guests shows up to your reception with an uninvited partner.
3. Finalize with all your vendors the week before your wedding.  Make sure to touch base via phone, at least once during this time. Do not assume that because you sent an email they received it. If you do decide to do your confirmations by email ask for a confirmation receipt from each vendor.  Make doubly certain that each of your vendors has the right date, event start time and location.
4. If you have a complicated bustle on your Wedding dress designate a reliable person to be responsible for bustling your dress after your service.  Prior to the wedding day have that person practice doing this a few times so you know how much time you need to get it done. 
5. You must walk in the shoes that you plan to wear at your ceremony and reception prior to the big day.  You want to ensure that the soles are really scuffed – flower petals and carpets can become a sliding pond for new shoes.
Here is an extra one for good luck- In the Jewish faith traditionally the groom breaks a glass wrapped in a napkin to symbolize the destruction of the Temple.  Make sure to use a light bulb and not a real wine glass, because with an actual wine glass you run the risk of the glass puncturing through his shoe ending up embedded in his foot. OUCH!
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The #1 Secret to Slashing Your Wedding Costs

 
You just got engaged! You are so excited and of course you now want everyone you know to be come and share in your special day.  After all, this is the happiest time of your life.
You begin to make your guest list and suddenly you find that you have over 200 people that you must invite to your wedding.  Seriously, how would you live with yourself if don’t invite the girls you went to High School with or your Mother’s bridge group; they came to your house every week for years. Not inviting them would be unthinkable. Then there is aunt Sally, who moved out of state when you were 10 and she has 5 kids and those 5 kids are now all married and they each have their own families and……  The list can be endless! Where do you draw the line?
Of course, if you have an unlimited budget and all the money in the world to spend on your wedding then who you include in your day is not really a problem. But, if you are like most people, you do have to pay attention to the cost the cost of your wedding and therefore, managing your guest list and who you do invite is the single thing that you can do to help you stay within your budget.  It is important to realize that you will be providing food, beverage and seating for each person who attends your wedding.  It is likely that you will want to have a centerpiece on every table, an escort card and invitation for each couple or person, a party favor, a slice of wedding cake and….. All these costs can add up; before you know it you are spending double what you wanted to spend.  What might seem like only a few people more can end up costing thousands more than you are prepared to spend.
It is a fine line to draw and oftentimes a very difficult decision, however if you truly want to stay within a budget the best and most important cost effective, money saving tip would be to have a smaller wedding.
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3 Foolproof Ways to Your Mother In Laws Heart

Relationships are work.  There are no two ways about it.  We come into our engagements with a lot of excitement and expectation.  But once you become engaged you now get to have 2 families and often times even more than 1 mother.  All families have their own internal way of communicating and living with each other, dealing with life’s ups and downs.  Sometimes a well intentioned future Mother-In-Law can feel like a huge smack in the face.  Here are some ways of managing yours so you can have a calm and peaceful relationship.
1.     Keep an open line of communication with your future Mother-In-Law.  Years ago when I was marrying my husband I was so shy and too fear full to share my opinions or speak my mind whenever my Mother In Law was around. Especially when I had a different opinion. I was too uncomfortable with speaking my truth to her. I was afraid she wouldn’t like me.  I usually deferred the tricky situations to my husband and had him speak for me “thinking” this would make it OK.  WRONG!!!  All this did was set up years of hurt and miscommunication.  It actually created a huge rift between his Mom and me.  It was not fun and I do not recommend this line of action.
2.     Genuine honesty is your friend when dealing with your fiancee’s mother.  She knows when you are not telling the truth or hiding.  She will be able to sense it.  And furthermore, not telling your truth will create the exact situation you are trying to avoid.  What I have recently discovered is that we don’t realize that when we are uncomfortable or not authentic other people can feel it.  We all think we are great at pretending or acting like we fit; but the truth is if you are uncomfortable in any way people really do sense it.  Especially “Moms”.  We have a sense about other people especially when they are going to be marrying our son. Therefore, if you don’t like or agree with something she says have an open, honest conversation, with her. Do not run to your fiancée screaming about his Mom hoping he will rescue you like Snow White.  Remember, Snow White lived in a Fairy tale.
3.      Set some clear boundaries from the very beginning with your fiancee on how the two of you want to deal with each others parents.  If you and he are on the same page then sharing with his Mom can be something that is effortless.  After all, you both have the same goal and ultimate interest.  Her son’s happiness.
Every family has their own unique rhythm and way of communicating.  It is OK.  You have to learn as you grow with your fiancee in this journey to pick and choose your battles; when to stand your ground and when to give in.  Life together is not about who wins or who is right it is about choosing happy.  The choice is up to you.  When faced with the choice between right and happy- think really hard about which one will ultimately give you a better life.
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Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning!

3 Reasons Why Having a Guest List Will Save You Money

Having a clear idea of how many guests you intend to invite to your wedding should be your number one priority after you get engaged.    This one simple task can save you a lot of money, heartbreak and unnecessary stress.
Reason #1
Prior to the search for your perfect wedding location create a rough head count of your wedding guests.  Make sure to not only put down you and your fiancee’s friends and family make sure to check in with both sets of parents and have them begin to assemble their guest lists.
 I can’t begin to tell you how many brides fall in love with their “perfect” venue and immediately sign a contract and put down a deposit only to find out later  that the room is too small to accommodate the guest count.  Or you find out once the invites have mailed that you were wrong about how many people would be able to attend and now you are left with a space that is too large. So before you have to go through all the aggravation and heartache of cutting your list, finding a new venue and/or losing your deposit make a guest list spreadsheet.  Detail it as much as possible with a column for the out of town people, have a column for children, spouses, significant others and decide if you are going to offer your single friends to bring a friends. 
Reason #2
Most of your wedding costs are going to be based upon your guest count.  In order to accurately create a budget you really have to know how many people you are inviting and then how many you think will actually attend. This way when you find that perfect location you will be able to determine cost for food and beverage based on your head count since most venues will charge per person.  
Reason # 3
Ordering too few or too many invitations is a sure fire way to wreak havoc on your budget in addition to adding unnecessary chaos and stress. Having a very detailed spreadsheet listing all your guests, their families, partners and significant others will determine the number of invitations you will need to order.
If you found this article helpful or interesting please leave a comment.  Let me know your thoughts, If you have any questions or need any information or would like to see me write about a topic you need help on let me know.  If you don’t want to leave a comment below you can always email me: Julia@eventuresinc.netor simply visit our website at www.eventuresinc.net. Subscribe to our list for your free ebook “Make it Your Own! The Ultimate Guide to Personalize Your Day”
Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning!