Celebrating Your Wedding and Culture Together

We spend most of our lives trying to fit in and be like everyone else. As kids, our parents, our culture, and our traditions often embarrassed us. The day you get married, put the embarrassment aside, and embrace what sets you … Continue reading

Newly Engaged. Make The Choice That Feels Right For You!

Angel Orensanz, NYC
As women we are raised to be caretakers; to always put other people’s needs ahead of our own.    Your wedding day is the one and only day that was designed to be about and for you.  So let go of your need to do what is right for everyone else and choose to do what feels right for you.
Last week I had the opportunity to help one of my brides make a choice that felt right for her.  She had spent the last few months feverishly searching for the perfect wedding venue. She ended up very conflicted and unable to make a decision between 2 completely different spaces.  One space was completely done and felt elegant and glamorous and appeared to come with everything she could ever dream of and the other was more raw and urban- a space that she would get to play in and create the wedding she always dreamed about.  To everyone, the choice was obvious, go with the glamour, what is not to love? She was really torn and afraid that everyone would be mad at her if she picked the space she really wanted. After months of trying to make a decision her fiancée said, “I don’t care which place we get married in, I only care that we get married and that you are happy”  She turned to him and said “but, you do care”- he looked her in the eye and said: “no, I really don’t.  I just want you to make a decision and I will be ok with whatever you choose.”  It was so hard for her to trust that he really meant what he said.   
As I approach my 25th year of marriage I was able to help her see that her fiancée meant what he said.  His only desire was her happiness and for him getting married was what he wanted and once he asked her to be his wife his decision was done.  
The next day we went back to both venues. And as soon as she stepped onto the street of the venue she loved she turned to me and said, this is it. I want to have my wedding here.  It was that simple.  If you can let go of what you think is the right decision for everyone else and go with your instinct and gut feeling you will certainly be one step closer to your dream.
Dear Reader,  Are you having trouble finding the venue that is right because everyone sees something different for you than you see for yourself?  I am curious as to how you would handle this situation.  Let me know.  I would love to hear from you.
If you found this article helpful or interesting please leave a comment.  Let me know your thoughts, If you have any questions or need any information or would like to see me write about a topic you need help on let me know.  If you don’t want to leave a comment below you can always email me: Julia@eventuresinc.netor simply visit our website at www.eventuresinc.net. Subscribe to our list for your free ebook “Make it Your Own! The Ultimate Guide to Personalize Your Day”
Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning!


What is the Biggest Obstacle You are Faced with? Right Now!

Dear Reader,

Every week for almost a year I have been writing about topics that I think you may find interesting.  Handing our information that I think would help you.  But, I would love to hear from you.  What do you want to learn about?  What is the one biggest obstacle you are facing today as you are planning your wedding, or trying to decide if you want to become engaged?

Let me know I would love to help you in the journey and write about what it is you want to read.

Thanks for this opportunity to be of service.

If you found this article helpful or interesting please leave a comment.  Let me know your thoughts, If you have any questions or need any information or would like to see me write about a topic you need help on let me know.  If you don’t want to leave a comment below you can always email me: Julia@eventuresinc.netor simply visit our website at www.eventuresinc.net. Subscribe to our list for your free ebook “Make it Your Own! The Ultimate Guide to Personalize Your Day”

Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning

Whose Wedding Is It?

Do you feel like you are going crazy listening to all your friends and family telling you what to do?  Is your head about to explode with all the information coming at you?
I know- it’s your wedding and you want it your way.  Sure you love to listen to what others have to say but just because your cousin had a parade of flying geese doesn’t mean it is the right thing for you.
When you feel overwhelmed and tired of listening instead of losing your cool and screaming try one of these things instead:
1.     Unplug for an hour or even a day- heck if you need it take a whole week off from all the wedding advice, information.  No phones, no internet and no computer.
2.     Take a walk or if you are into biking or nature maybe a hike will help or perhaps you should look into yoga.
3.     Get a massage, mani/pedi or a facial.
4.     When your friends and family chime in with all their knowledge and information before you react or answer take a deep breath. And pause.  Or maybe excuse yourself and head off to the bathroom for a quick break and a little alone time.
5.     If breathing and a pause didn’t work, smile and thank everyone for their information.  Acknowledge that you heard them.  Just because they speak it doesn’t mean you have to do it.
Dear Reader, Are you feeling overwhelmed and bombarded by well intentioned friends and family?  How are you choosing to deal with all their advice?  Write me andlet me know.   Or leave a comment.  I promise to answer.
If you found this article helpful or interesting please leave a comment.  Let me know your thoughts, If you have any questions or need any information or would like to see me write about a topic you need help on let me know.  If you don’t want to leave a comment below you can always email me: Julia@eventuresinc.netor simply visit our website at www.eventuresinc.net. Subscribe to our list for your free ebook “Make it Your Own! The Ultimate Guide to Personalize Your Day”
Grace, Gratitude and Happy Planning!